Many guys have a difficult time going up to and hitting on women because guys have a mistaken belief that women hate being hit on. This is a myth that women have perpetuated and one that guys have been totally duped into. Belief in this false myth causes most guys to hate and fear hitting on women. He’ll think, “Girls hate being hit on by guys so if I go up to her, she’ll think I’m a creep… “
Most women will claim they don’t really like it or that it annoys them but the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can’t get enough of it. It is a good, quick booster for their ego and self esteem. Because all women want to feel attractive and desirable, a random stranger approaching them and hitting on them affirms that they are in fact attractive and desirable.
Most women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and doubt about their attractiveness factor. When guys hit on them, this serves to alleviate those doubts and therefore corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women gabbing about how they despise being hit on or a female buddy confessed to you how annoying it is, you’ve witnessed the female psychology at work. Even though they secretly enjoy it, they can not explicitly confess to this. Because the female social dynamic demands it, they have to hide it and pretend to dislike it.
For women (and men to some extent), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They have to protect this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. If they freely admit to enjoy being hit on, they are in danger of being labelled as sluts or attention-mongers. Labels such as these will lower their perceived social value and so must be avoided at all costs.
In addition, if women hated attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead business instead of the $170 billion dollar business it is. They would put on motel curtains and shapeless T-shirts, and the whole beauty business would not exist. There are those some, though, that have been duped into believing another myth. That women do not dress up for men, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can understand. However, this means absolutely nothing in the greater scheme of hitting on women because if this holds true, ultimately, this means girls are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
However, there is a big catch to this. Women love being hit on by clean-cut guys hitting on them properly. If you think you can approach any woman and say garbage pickup lines or rude, condescending sexual innuendos like “I like your butt” and think that they will like it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a jerk that no human woman will accept. Therefore, you must learn the appropriate way to hit on women and the correct things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and love being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak to them, assuming you clean-cut and you do it appropriately. Destroy the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you’re a creep if you hit on them. By altering this frame of mind, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.